Why women have extramarital affairs?
Talk about a loaded issue that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since millennium. Extramarital relationships can be fraught with evils, cause sadness, and other harms. Plus you have to wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness issue, funds, age dissimilarity, religious upbringing, shame, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I should identify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, discreet dating for married.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek affair. I suppose mainly though it is only the human condition, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Physically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us flee the real world for a brief period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody are able to turn the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another person, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos society has erected against affairs. For lots of individuals the yearnings will overcome their doubts and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but the public also. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is horribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not wound your family or anybody else? You will need to reduce the threat you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest grouping, very big in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, apart from they are comfortable in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to look after. Your funds are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair from time to time solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Ignoring, sadly this is a common cause I fear. One or the other, as a rule the male is sexually neglecting his female for a large humber of reasons. As a man I truly am thankful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them obtainable to us males of romance, making them “hot milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is gone, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Maybe we have just developed apart, our ordinary interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is contradictory of what you want. Maybe I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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